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May 7, 2025
You are not alone! Many people report feeling tired of dating apps, experiencing what's often called "dating app burnout". This burnout can manifest as feeling emotionally, mentally or physically exhausted from swiping, messaging and the process in general.
A Forbes Health study found that 78% of respondents felt this way.
“In a Forbes Health survey from last July, nearly 80% of participants said they "felt emotionally, mentally or physically exhausted by dating apps." The dating app industry is feeling the pressure. Shares for Match Group — which owns Tinder and Hinge — have dropped by about 69% over the past five years.”
- Hardin scott
There are many reasons for dating app burnout:
- Time and Effort:
Dating apps can require significant time and effort, leading to a feeling of being overwhelmed.
- Lack of Genuine Connection:
Many users find the online experience to be superficial and impersonal, hindering the development of meaningful connections.
- Pressure to Present an Idealized Self:
The pressure to present a perfect online persona can be exhausting, leading to feelings of anxiety and inauthenticity.
- Rejection and Disappointment:
The constant potential for rejection and disappointment can be emotionally draining.
- Gamification:
The swipe interface and gamified elements of some apps can contribute to a feeling of being objectified and devalued.
Here are some common mistakes dating app users make:
Mistake 1 - Choosing the wrong dating app:
Although dating apps help you find love, not every dating app was created equally. Therefore, do not choose a dating app based on popularity. Instead, choose one based on your #relationshipgoals, as well as your requirements.
Mistake 2 - Unwilling to use paid subscriptions:
Dating apps offer free and paid subscriptions. However, with the surge of online dating scams, it is best to use some form of paid dating subscription as remember: you get what you pay for.
Mistake 3 - Uploading a bad profile pic:
While you will want to put your best face forward, do not upload a fake pic. Also, uploading a blurry picture or pics that only show you from the chest up, or with your shirt off won’t bring good results. Instead, get someone (maybe even a professional) to take one or two good, clear photos. Then, choose a lifestyle shot and a full body shot. All this will help in the long run.
Mistake 4 - Writing a boring profile bio:
While no one expects you to be a novel writer, do try to include an interesting bio or profile description. Include things about your interest and what you want. Avoid telling people what you are NOT looking for, or what you DO NOT WANT. Remember, ‘that which you resist, persist’! Another way of saying it is ‘energy flows where attention goes’.
Mistake 5 - Unwilling or too afraid to initiate contact:
If you do not initiate contact no one will know you exist. Ladies: this is often a hard one for you. Some people go online wishing, hoping, and swiping, yet never engaging. This one should be easy if you think of it like this: Your career, your job, your education, where you live and what you wear — all your choice right? Initiating contact with someone you like should be no different.
Mistake 6 - Giving up too soon:
While online dating can be time consuming and frustrating, the objective is to not give up too soon. A dating app is just a dating tool. So, if you are tired of using dating apps or not having any luck, don’t quit; strategize, and use the app along with other forms of dating. However, if you’re swiping day and night hoping to meet the one and getting burned out, you’re doing it all wrong.
Although dating apps are the modern way to meet someone, it is still entirely possible to meet someone without having to use dating apps at all.
Remember, the best relationships start with friendship!
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